Through a Sista's Eyes


Many of us within the black community have become so accustomed to calling one another n*gga, b*itch, hoe, thug and every other derogatory name that we don’t even pay attention to the effect it has on our psyche.  It strips us of our greatness that we once held dear to us.  It further takes us away from knowing that we were once Kings and Queens.  There are numerous people who justify the use of these words especially n*gga and b*itch.  Claiming them to be words of endearment and not really taking the responsibility of putting these words out into the universe for all to hear and use.  Yes we live in a world where there is clearly free speech giving you every right to use these words as you see fit, yet outside races feel denied this same “unwritten” right that we in the black community have for calling one another n*gga or b*itch.

I’m not saying that we don’t have the right to call one another by these terms, but I am saying we should ask ourselves why we see fit to do so.  Would your homeboy be any less your homeboy if you didn’t refer to him as your n*gga?  Would your best girlfriend still be as important without being referred to as your b*itch?  Why is it so hard to embrace one another as Kings and Queens versus n*ggas and b*itches?  Wouldn’t you feel more empowered to be referred to as your friend’s fellow King or Queen?

Would we be better off and more understanding of one another if we stopped addressing each other as n*ggas and b*itches?  Would we find it easier to unify with our fellow Kings and Queens than with the distrusted name of our fellow n*ggas and b*itches?  You may say its not important how we greet or refer to one another, but think of how much it grates your ears to hear our younger generation running around calling each other n*ggas and b*itches.  Then imagine how different their mindsets would be if they embraced the titles of Kings and Queens and felt the need to act as such because the examples there were seeing displayed as much.  You don’t have to agree and you can think there’s really nothing to it, but ask yourself what’s really in a name.

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Dawn Douglas is Soul Food Poems, the soulful poet and writer born and raised in Louisville, KY. She began her love of writing in high school. The poems she wrote during that time became the foundation for her first book of poetry titled “More than Poetry, 1993 until Infinity” published in 2007. In 2013 she published her second book "A Journey through Infinity". She joined the Air Force in 1994 and maintained a love of writing poetry, speeches and short stories. During her 20 year career she performed her poetry and speeches at numerous Open Mic's, Black History Month and Women’s History Month Luncheons, Juneteenth events and retirement ceremonies. She is also the founder of the Facebook group, Positive Educated Black Women, which she created to help unify, support, uplift and to network with other strong black women.


  1. Denise Fountain
    April 22, 2015 at 7:59 pm — Reply

    Interesting, great article!

  2. Prncsty
    April 30, 2015 at 12:14 pm — Reply

    I agree that there should be a sense of pride in a name. We definitely can use more positive terms of endearment when referring to our friends. If our children see us do something or say something they begin to believe it is the correct way and the emulate it. Very valid points made in this article.

    • Soul Food Poems
      April 30, 2015 at 10:35 pm — Reply

      Thanks for reading this, I truly do appreciate your support!

  3. Terry
    May 2, 2015 at 1:03 pm — Reply

    The examples we set through our actions, or lack thereof, manifest themselves in the generations under us; responsibility, thoughtful mentoring , respect and love are qualities that have been craftily washed from our race over the centuries and while there’s still a strong force (media, class engineering, etc) working to continue the “dumbing-down” we have the same tools at our disposal to counter…but we have to start in our homes, churches and neighborhoods first to plant the seeds deep. Action not “talk” is the only way to put good seed into ground. Good article! Looking forward to more!

    • Soul Food Poems
      May 4, 2015 at 2:15 pm — Reply

      I really appreciate you taking time out to read this. I know I always have your support with the positive things I’m doing in my life, thank you for always being here and being a great influence

  4. Soul Food Poems
    May 4, 2015 at 2:14 pm — Reply

    I really appreciate you taking time out to read this. I know I always have your support with the positive things I’m doing in my life, thank you for always being here and being a great influence.

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