Through a Sista's Eyes

“Suffering from a lack of……”

Many of us today in the African American community find ourselves suffering from a lack of many things that would make us function better individually and collectively if we took the proper time to address what we suffer from. Some of the biggest things we suffer from are lack of mentorship, Knowledge of Self and self esteem. These are just a few of the things we are lacking within our community. Yes it’s true that other races may be going through these things too, but we need to focus on us and how to build ourselves up.

Our youth and our peers are suffering, and mentorship is crucial for everyone. One thing I learned during my 20 years in the Air Force was that mentorship needed to happen on every level including peer to peer. If you see someone who looks like they need guidance and you feel they will be receptive to your guidance, then it’s your duty as a civilized individual to lend a helping hand. Sometimes people are afraid to ask for help, but if you offer it those who want to be helped then they will willingly accept. Once you start, you’ll find that you’ve begun to help them start to achieve some Knowledge of Self.  This is one of the most important things for anyone to gain.  Knowledge of Self helps people understand who they truly are. It helps them understand their role in the universe defining their true purpose, and gives them the sense of duty of enlightening others so they too can gain some KOS.

If you look on any social media sight you’ll see images of our youth engaged in violence, partaking in senseless challenges and other degrading acts. What’s worse is you’ll see adults sharing them on their pages, condoning their actions and laughing at our troubled youth. They are truly suffering and if we don’t get involved, the cycle of misguided individuals will continue. Knowledge of Self and self esteem go hand in hand. If we have no sense of who we are as a people and all the wonderful things our ancestors have accomplished then how can we be prideful of who we are now? The more you learn about our people, the more you become in-tune with yourself as a person, the more balance you will have in your life increasing your self esteem. Our youth need to be taught at an early age about who we are, what we’ve done, what we’ve overcome and how to fully love themselves despite those who wish to tear their self image down. The saying “It takes a village” is needed now more than ever as it seems so many people, young and old, are spiraling out of control.

This is how we break these cycles plaguing our people–by getting involved and helping one another. Once we start mentoring one another, it will trickle down to our youth and we will all find ourselves in a better place mentally, emotionally and spiritually. We will be able to make improvements not only in our households but in our communities as well…..and that is how we all win.

To quote the very talented Ms. Lauryn Hill, “How are you going to win if you’re not right within?” It’s time we all get right within and stop “suffering from a lack of” so we can all win.




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Dawn Douglas is Soul Food Poems, the soulful poet and writer born and raised in Louisville, KY. She began her love of writing in high school. The poems she wrote during that time became the foundation for her first book of poetry titled “More than Poetry, 1993 until Infinity” published in 2007. In 2013 she published her second book "A Journey through Infinity". She joined the Air Force in 1994 and maintained a love of writing poetry, speeches and short stories. During her 20 year career she performed her poetry and speeches at numerous Open Mic's, Black History Month and Women’s History Month Luncheons, Juneteenth events and retirement ceremonies. She is also the founder of the Facebook group, Positive Educated Black Women, which she created to help unify, support, uplift and to network with other strong black women.


  1. June 13, 2015 at 12:10 pm — Reply

    Very well articulated. Your commentary touches a deep place of community service and resonates with me in several ways. I look forward to reading more of your thoughts. #followthafro

    • Soul Food Poems
      June 16, 2015 at 10:27 am — Reply

      ThANKHs for reading this Queen, I appreciate your feedback and am glad that you will be staying tuned to my blog.

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