Through a Sista's Eyes

Do Your Research and Stop Letting Yourself Get Played

It amazes me that in this day and age of technology people are still being duped by con-artists. There are so many resources available to help you find out anything, about anyone now. So why are people still being Catfished? Why are people still falling victim to deceitful men and women who have a long history of committing crimes? Have we become so desperate for love that we really can’t seem to take our blinders off? It’s okay to be trusting, but if something doesn’t feel right about a person then chances are things aren’t right.

The human species is the only species on the planet that does not trust their instincts…amazing right? We have little voices in our heads telling us something is wrong. We get those gut feelings that something seems off, yet we continue on the same path and find ourselves wondering why things went bad for us. If we would just learn to trust ourselves more and stop blindly trusting people who have done nothing to earn our trust, we would be a lot better off. “Love” is getting a bad reputation, because we aren’t willing to take accountability for our own bad judgement. We have access to unlimited websites that will give you background information on anyone. So when your Spidey senses start tingling that should be your clue to do some research and see what you come up with.

Now I know for a lot of people this is going to be a tough pill to swallow, because being loved is what they truly desire and they’ve finally met someone who is saying all the right things at all the right times. Their lack of self-esteem is virtually allowing them to fall victim to someone who has gotten very good at playing people for their own selfish desires. The more people who they are allowed to play, the more their confidence grows and they stay on a path of using as many people as possible. They know and have learned to sense when people are weak-minded and gullible so it has become all too easy for them to keep leaving a trail of heartbroken victims along the way. They are literally counting on the fact that you care so much for them that you’ll keep believing everything they tell you and that you’ll never be smart enough to check up on them. Don’t let your need for love overrule your judgement. Build your own trust within yourself and learn how to really listen to your instincts. You can either be your own greatest ally or your own worst enemy when it comes to your decision making.

The technology age is here to stay and it can be so powerful if people would just utilize it. Imagine how many people would still have their money, time and sanity if they had just taken the time to do a little bit of research on the person holding their interests. Now I’m not saying that everyone you meet isn’t genuine. What I am saying is that if things just aren’t quite adding up with their stories and you feel on edge when you’re around them, then perhaps you should take a little time to do just a little bit of research to see if your feelings of uncertainty are warranted. You don’t have anything to lose but you have everything to gain. You’ll be glad you did if they turn out not to be anything close to who they claimed they were. In a time where people are constantly searching for the real deal, wolves in sheep’s clothing are on the rise–so protect yourself.

 

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Dawn Douglas is Soul Food Poems, the soulful poet and writer born and raised in Louisville, KY. She began her love of writing in high school. The poems she wrote during that time became the foundation for her first book of poetry titled “More than Poetry, 1993 until Infinity” published in 2007. In 2013 she published her second book "A Journey through Infinity". She joined the Air Force in 1994 and maintained a love of writing poetry, speeches and short stories. During her 20 year career she performed her poetry and speeches at numerous Open Mic's, Black History Month and Women’s History Month Luncheons, Juneteenth events and retirement ceremonies. She is also the founder of the Facebook group, Positive Educated Black Women, which she created to help unify, support, uplift and to network with other strong black women.

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