Through a Sista's Eyes

Crabs in a Barrel

So often we refer to ourselves as “Crabs in a Barrel”, perpetuating the notion that we are our own worst enemies when it comes to us getting ahead. There is some truth behind this thought process in a sense that we often times lack the unity to help one another make it to the top. There is so much backstabbing and deceit among us that it often times seems hopeless to try and build up one another.

If we change our thought process and actually stop looking at our brothers and sisters as our enemy, we could make some real progress out here. It’s those small baby steps with letting your guard down and trusting each other that will have the greatest impact on our success. While it remains true that some people will never want to be a better person or to help others succeed, that’s not the case for everyone. There are some truly genuine people out here that are willing to work with anyone to help them get ahead. They have realized that there is room at the top for everyone to be there and only through unity will we achieve such greatness.

Yes we have many “barrels” to get ourselves out of. We have to break down how we got in those barrels in the first place, in order to figure out the best way to get out of them. The ghetto, our negative thinking and our destructive behaviors are the barrels that are keeping us from progressing. Once you identify the “problem”, the next step is to figure out a solution and put it into action. We don’t have to remain crabs in a barrel once we realize how we got in the barrel in the first place.

We can all rise and be successful and we can do it as a team once we break the negative cycle of thinking that has crippled us from doing do for so many years. We are our greatest assets if choose to unify and see each other in a helpful light, versus seeing one another as the competition. All it takes is for us to change our mindsets and to grow into something greater than we ever thought possible, we don’t have to remain crabs in a barrel…..we can change!



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Dawn Douglas is Soul Food Poems, the soulful poet and writer born and raised in Louisville, KY. She began her love of writing in high school. The poems she wrote during that time became the foundation for her first book of poetry titled “More than Poetry, 1993 until Infinity” published in 2007. In 2013 she published her second book "A Journey through Infinity". She joined the Air Force in 1994 and maintained a love of writing poetry, speeches and short stories. During her 20 year career she performed her poetry and speeches at numerous Open Mic's, Black History Month and Women’s History Month Luncheons, Juneteenth events and retirement ceremonies. She is also the founder of the Facebook group, Positive Educated Black Women, which she created to help unify, support, uplift and to network with other strong black women.


  1. Tree
    May 21, 2015 at 8:30 am — Reply

    Love your ideology!!!

    • Soul Food Poems
      May 22, 2015 at 9:56 am — Reply

      Thanks…I’m glad you stopped by for a read. And thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  2. Kyla
    May 21, 2015 at 2:26 pm — Reply

    Everything in life is a CHOICE! We should all stop playing victim of circumstance and build one another up! Well said!

    • Soul Food Poems
      May 22, 2015 at 9:57 am — Reply

      Thanks Kyla, we all have work to do (mentally) and I hope people finally start putting in the work to change their lives.

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